tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940417678192492037.post8607596685705881836..comments2023-05-16T09:51:19.356+01:00Comments on Vivre Sa Vie : To be (anxious), or not to be (anxious)...Vivre Sa Viehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16968916150096947866noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940417678192492037.post-2118019351466362892012-05-29T14:50:32.328+01:002012-05-29T14:50:32.328+01:00Hey Lucy - sounds like you did a great job! I defi...Hey Lucy - sounds like you did a great job! I definitely won't be censorious about the booze - I think it's fine to have a wee bit of dutch courage in these situations.<br /><br />Despite being HUGELY skeptical about mindfulness and meditation, I've actually had amazing results with it. And I promise I don't smell of patchouli or have mouldy dreadlocks.<br /><br />It's very hard when you're really, really panicking, but if you practise when you're feeling okay, you can get better so that you can use it in difficult situations.<br /><br />It's definitely something you have to work at, as you don't just *get* it all of a sudden, but I PROMISE you, it's definitely worthwhile.<br /><br />I've written a couple of posts about it - check them out! <br /><br />VxVivre Sa Viehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16968916150096947866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940417678192492037.post-15496012367807248632012-05-23T21:33:02.976+01:002012-05-23T21:33:02.976+01:00Well, that wasn't SO bad, but it wasn't gr...Well, that wasn't SO bad, but it wasn't great either. I cheated a bit by downing two glasses of prosecco and half a beer before the show (yes, yes, a slippery slope, I'm aware) but even that couldn't help me from being all sweaty and cramped up. That kind of experimental dance, where the only sound is the breath of the dancers just makes me so uneasy. I just can't stand silence when I'm in a room full of people. Or that's what I've told myself to the point of believing it. <br /><br />Anyway, I did pull through and did not have to leave the room to splash cold water in my face.<br /><br />My coach - yes, I have a coach. I must sound so corporate - sternly advised me to do a lengthy and quite expensive mindfulness course. Do you have any experience with that? It seems like a good fit but I'm a bit weary of becoming one of those vegan hippies that wants to give birth in a pool where dolphins swim while chanting in Nepali (if this applies to anyone here, I mean no offense).<br /><br />Thanks!<br />LucyLucynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940417678192492037.post-70972164402016966202012-05-18T17:58:57.485+01:002012-05-18T17:58:57.485+01:00Lucy, that's hilarious - the panic gods obviou...Lucy, that's hilarious - the panic gods obviously want to challenge us with lots of claustrophobic avant-garde cultural performances! <br /><br />I promise you that you won't jump up and down and scream. That's what we all fear (suddenly losing control and running amok and causing a massive scene) but it hardly ever, ever, EVER happens. Most of the time no-one would even notice if you were panicking. I bet you'll have an amazing time (it might actually be hilarious - I have a hard time taking experimental dance seriously) but if you have a panic, you can just excuse yourself and tiptoe out and get some fresh air outside.<br /><br />And sadly - I think noone apart from panicky people really gets the 'having to have an escape route' thing. I think if you've never had panic attacks, that sort of thing doesn't even occur to you - in fact I know it doesn't, because before I had them I never even thought about stuff like that. Now I think about being in the middle of rows, and near exits and all sorts of other fretful nonsense. Anxiety is such a bitch!!<br /><br />Let me know how it goes. V xxVivre Sa Viehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16968916150096947866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4940417678192492037.post-38354412771393353442012-05-17T21:36:16.802+01:002012-05-17T21:36:16.802+01:00Wow, that note is absolutely hysterical. I told on...Wow, that note is absolutely hysterical. I told one my friends but she didn't get it. Must be an inside joke. Great that you managed to focus on the performance rather than your fear.<br /><br />I myself am conquering my fears this sunday to go see some experimental dance performance. One of the dancers is my best friend's boyfriend so there's extra pressure to not ruin the show by jumping up in a moment of silence and starting to scream and wave my arms above my head (which is currently what I'm convinced will happen). Stocking up on valerian which unfortunately has lost its placebo effect slightly. Maybe an extra heavy dose will keep me calmly in my seat.Lucynoreply@blogger.com